Styled by……….

Styled by…..tells the story behind someones style. What does a person tell by the way she or he is dressed? What does it say about their personality? When did they began to create their own style? The series is published every first Tuesday of the month.

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This month Sonja of Yustsome tells her Style Story!

Styled by… Sonja

Fashion.… some are born with style, some had to find there own. I think I am still searching?

I was very young when my mum learned us to sew our own clothes. First some Barbie clothes and after a few years I was able to make my own dresses, blouses, etc.

Mum made our clothes, I am a twin, so in the beginning it was all the same, but then she made clothes in different colors. Still the same, you could see that we belonged to each other, but also our own identity.Styled by..........Sonja

I was very proud of my own fashionstyle, but at school they didn’t understand my way to express myself. So I turned into an object to bully. They threw my clothes into toilets at school. I cried a lot and decided to adapt…Styled by..........Sonja

After several years I could be more myself, because I went to a graphic designer school and the people in the city were more into fashion and style.Styled by..........Sonja

I loved to wear big shoes, high heels, pointed noses, a lot of bling! I did shop at a boutique called Art, but also very expensive clothes. My mother sometimes wondered how much I did spend on my clothes. A jeans from Esprit was €169,- but a jacket I loved (designer brand) was €250,- it was sometimes really stupid I know… but I loved to spoil myself.

After I became a mom, I decided to wear more comfy clothes. No more design, no more stylish me, just sweaters, jeans and sneakers.Styled by..........Sonja

I was glad that my oldest son and I had an photoshoot (I was 29 and still not married, so my son and I decided to do a fake marriage) so we could dress up and be handsome!

The clothes for my son I made myself! At that age it was fun, but after a few years he didn’t like it anymore.

I always heard from my ex that I was fat like a pig… today I looked at this picture and cried again, because I now see how beautiful I was at that time!

Sometimes angels come towards you and I met mine. He loved me, not for my clothes but the funny me, the woman who cares… he stayed, Yes he did, also when I got pregnant and gained 30 kilo’s.Styled by..........Sonja

My weddingdress I made myself, off course that baby suit too and the jacket my husband wears. The Chinese ensemble my oldest son wears I found in a Chinese store.

I never wanted to marry in white. My dream dress was something like this… like I would be the stephmother of Snowwhite.Styled by..........Sonja

My style was always black and white. I did wear colors, but only because it was fashionable. I mostly like the gothic style… if I was younger I would wear more skirts with lace, bustiers, fancy jackets…

What do I wear now?

So in 2017 I started my fashion posts on my blog. And I was more me, I had a trauma… because in my childhood I was bullied and it was also not save at home (my father abused us)… Nobody did know this, so I always was insecure about my body. My father told me that I was ugly, my ex told me I was a pig, at school they told me I was weird and my colleagues at work told me I was fat again…

I learned to love myself, and it happened. It was a struggle, it was painful but I am glad I got throughout this rough period.

This is me.… look at me!Styled by..........SonjaStyled by..........Sonja

I found some old clothes at my mothers attic from myself..…


These trousers are about 20 years old,  my husband does not like the print. So I know it was before I met him! 😉Styled by..........Sonja

This blazer I bought for an photoshoot with my boy friend Helmuth at the age of 21, so this is 28 years old!Styled by..........SonjaStyled by..........Sonja

This bomberjacket is also from the 80s and I still love it! I wished I could wear this more often!

Isn’t this funny? I can still wear my old clothes! Yeah!

I hope you liked my Styled by…..Sonja, sometimes we have to travel a journey to become who we are!

And I became a woman with my own style, my own taste, I can be me!Styled by Sonja


Sonja – 49 – mother – married with Paul – Graphic Designer – PTSD – blogger – funny – loves make-up – loves shoes – loves bags – loves herself!

I met Sonja a few weeks ago and I can tell you, she is a fantastic woman!

If you want to see more of Sonja then visit her via her blog, Twitter or Instagram.

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    • Nancy
      March 6, 2018 / 8:28 am

      Thanks Jodie! I am at a age that I actually like what I wore 30years ago!

    • March 6, 2018 / 9:50 pm

      Thank you! ❤️

  1. March 6, 2018 / 1:43 am

    Love Sonja Style story! She is an Amazing individual with great style. I love the bold pieces that she chooses and I’m very glad that she has found the love of her life. I agree about the wedding dress also. Thank you for sharing this wonderful post !

    • Nancy
      March 6, 2018 / 8:29 am

      Thank you for commenting Elle!

    • March 6, 2018 / 9:52 pm

      Thank you ❤️

  2. Tina von Tinaspinkfriday
    March 6, 2018 / 6:25 am

    Thank you for sharing this story about Sonja, a wonderful woman.

    • Nancy
      March 6, 2018 / 8:30 am

      She is! We had lunch together a few weeks ago and she really is a very strong but very supportive woman!

    • March 6, 2018 / 9:51 pm

      Thank you ❤️

    • Nancy
      March 6, 2018 / 5:47 pm

      Thanks Ashley!

    • March 6, 2018 / 9:51 pm

      Thank you ❤️

  3. March 6, 2018 / 6:51 pm

    Love it, and don’t we look sooooo much better now than back in the days?

  4. chucky1012
    March 6, 2018 / 11:27 pm

    Great story!
    Nice pictures.
    Perfect that you maked your own clothes and from your son.
    I follow her blog for a loing time already.
    She have power and keep going on….

    • Nancy
      March 7, 2018 / 7:54 am


  5. March 6, 2018 / 11:36 pm

    So much spite in the world! But look how fabulous Sonja looks? I see a stronger woman because of this and not pulled down at all Nancy. Sonja looks fabulous .
    Laurie xx

    • Nancy
      March 7, 2018 / 7:55 am

      And she is fabulous too!

      • March 8, 2018 / 2:02 pm

        Thank you ❤️

  6. March 7, 2018 / 12:34 am

    Sonja, I’m so sorry that people were so mean to you when you were younger, ugh, people can be ridiculous! But it sounds like now you’re able to love yourself and have wonderful people who also love you, so a good direction in the story )that’s not over yet!). I’m so impressed by people who can make their own clothes, I can barely sew on a button! Thanks for sharing your story with us!


    • Nancy
      March 7, 2018 / 7:56 am

      Me neither Bettye, in fact, when I do have to put on a button it looks rediculous! Thanks love!

      • March 8, 2018 / 2:02 pm

        Aaahw… thank you love ❤️

  7. March 7, 2018 / 10:08 pm

    Way to go Sonja! You are fierce, brave,and inspiring!

    • Nancy
      March 7, 2018 / 11:07 pm

      Thanks Kellyann!

    • March 8, 2018 / 2:02 pm

      Thank you ❤️

    • Nancy
      March 8, 2018 / 7:29 pm


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