Styled by…..tells the story behind someones style. What does a person tell by the way she or he is dressed? What does it say about their personality? When did they began to create their own style? The series is published every first Tuesday of the month.
Do you also have a story to tell, and do you also have beautiful pictures of your style evolution? I, and many of my readers, want to read your story! I would love it if you can join the fun too! You can find all the info in the Styled by…..page or contact me via firstname.lastname@example.org.
Let’s see who tells her story this month!
My personal style?? Oh boy. That is an ongoing story. I’m still feeling my way along, trying different things, but I feel BEST in a slightly casual/minimalistic outfit, sometimes with a nod towards ‘80s prep. Most of my current wardrobe is geared towards work, so is more “business casual” than I would dress if my life had no dress code. But I try to put my own spin on that as much as I can. If money and work were no object I would dress like a boho Eileen Fisher model – loose unstructured clothes in muted neutral tones – elegant but easy and a little artsy.
I think my clothes say that I am a relaxed, casual person who does not necessarily like being the center of attention.
I didn’t have many early fashion inspirations. Due to my weight, I never really felt “fashion” was for me, but I’ve always loved it. Pouring over fashion magazines, dreaming of being a model, making scrapbooks (early version of Pinterest!) of favorite outfits…but “style” always seemed to me like something OTHER people had, not me. It seemed like something thin people had, and I was never thin.
I did go through a Flashdance phase in my early 20s, cropped tapered acid-washed jeans with zippers at the ankles and cut-up sweatshirts. I worked with horses and was a riding instructor for many years through my teens and twenties so my work clothes were boots and breeches…then I changed at home into grungy jeans or sweats to take care of my own horses (and four dogs, six cats, a ferret and a parrot!).
And once I had my daughter, I was lucky to get dressed at *all,* I certainly wasn’t paying any attention to “fashion.” That’s when I really started to gain weight and Fashion Bug became my go-to store as their sizes went higher than anywhere else and clothes were cheap!
A few years ago in my mid-50s I learned of the plus-size clothing rental company Gwynnie Bee, and the ability to try so many different styles and brands really opened my eyes to new ways I could dress my plus-size body. I got a little more adventurous with my clothing and started paying more attention to the way I looked. I’ve learned what I’m comfortable wearing – swing and trapeze dresses GOOD, elastic waist and bodycon dresses BAD. Solid on solid is boring and I’m learning to include more prints and accessories into my wardrobe and outfits. Clothes. Must. Be. Comfortable. No “look” is more important than comfort. Try things on in stores even if you’re not sure about it, because things look totally different on bodies than they do on hangers. I try trends in very small doses, but keep most of my wardrobe to basics.
I now feel like style is something everybody has, whether they think about it or not. For now I’m pretty pleased with where I am. I no longer feel the need to hide my plus-size body, I no longer need to cover up every body part – wobbly arms and lumpy legs – with fabric. I don’t follow anyone else’s rules – fat girls can wear stripes, we can all wear white after Labor Day, etc.
Thank you very much Bettye! I love that last photo so much! I hope you will have a great year!
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