Styled by……….

Styled by…..tells the story behind someones style. What does a person tell by the way she or he is dressed?  What does it say about their personality? When did they began to create their own style? The series is published every first Tuesday of the month.

Do you also have a story to tell, and do you also have beautiful pictures of your style evolution? I, and many of my readers, want to read your story! I would love it if you can join the fun too! You can find all the info in the Styled by… or contact me via

Let’s see who tells her story this month!

Styled by……….Bettye

My personal style?? Oh boy. That is an ongoing story. I’m still feeling my way along, trying different things, but I feel BEST in a slightly casual/minimalistic outfit, sometimes with a nod towards ‘80s prep. Most of my current wardrobe is geared towards work, so is more “business casual” than I would dress if my life had no dress code. But I try to put my own spin on that as much as I can. If money and work were no object I would dress like a boho Eileen Fisher model – loose unstructured clothes in muted neutral tones – elegant but easy and a little artsy.styled by Bettye

I think my clothes say that I am a relaxed, casual person who does not necessarily like being the center of attention.

I didn’t have many early fashion inspirations. Due to my weight, I never really felt “fashion” was for me, but I’ve always loved it. Pouring over fashion magazines, dreaming of being a model, making scrapbooks (early version of Pinterest!) of favorite outfits…but “style” always seemed to me like something OTHER people had, not me. It seemed like something thin people had, and I was never thin.styled by Bettye

I did go through a Flashdance phase in my early 20s, cropped tapered acid-washed jeans with zippers at the ankles and cut-up sweatshirts. I worked with horses and was a riding instructor for many years through my teens and twenties so my work clothes were boots and breeches…then I changed at home into grungy jeans or sweats to take care of my own horses (and four dogs, six cats, a ferret and a parrot!).styled by Bettye

And once I had my daughter, I was lucky to get dressed at *all,* I certainly wasn’t paying any attention to “fashion.” That’s when I really started to gain weight and Fashion Bug became my go-to store as their sizes went higher than anywhere else and clothes were cheap!

A few years ago in my mid-50s I learned of the plus-size clothing rental company Gwynnie Bee, and the ability to try so many different styles and brands really opened my eyes to new ways I could dress my plus-size body. I got a little more adventurous with my clothing and started paying more attention to the way I looked. I’ve learned what I’m comfortable wearing – swing and trapeze dresses GOOD, elastic waist and bodycon dresses BAD. Solid on solid is boring and I’m learning to include more prints and accessories into my wardrobe and outfits. Clothes. Must. Be. Comfortable. No “look” is more important than comfort. Try things on in stores even if you’re not sure about it, because things look totally different on bodies than they do on hangers. I try trends in very small doses, but keep most of my wardrobe to basics.styled by Bettye

I now feel like style is something everybody has, whether they think about it or not. For now I’m pretty pleased with where I am. I no longer feel the need to hide my plus-size body, I no longer need to cover up every body part – wobbly arms and lumpy legs – with fabric. I don’t follow anyone else’s rules – fat girls can wear stripes, we can all wear white after Labor Day, etc.styled by Bettye

As I’m approaching 60, I hope my style will become a little more adventurous. But…I will take that one day at a time.Styled by.........Bettye


Thank you very much Bettye! I love that last photo so much! I hope you will have a great year!

You can find more of Bettye here:

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  1. January 2, 2018 / 12:50 am

    Loved reading Bettye’s style story!
    I love her style and her confidence, I look forward to following her.
    Yes, to a woman who accepts who she is and is proud,
    I think she is super pretty and love her style .
    Loved the tulle skirt!
    Xoxo, Elle,

    • January 2, 2018 / 9:39 am

      Thanks Elle! I also love her attitude! She is a strong woman!

  2. jodie filogomo
    January 2, 2018 / 2:36 am

    I love to hear such a great transformation!!
    Thanks for introducing us to Bettye!!

    • January 2, 2018 / 9:40 am

      Thank you for reading Jodie! Would love to see your story too!

    • January 2, 2018 / 8:11 pm

      A lifelong transformation, Jodie, to be sure! At least I hope so!


  3. Tina von Tinaspinkfriday
    January 2, 2018 / 6:08 am

    Interesting to read her story. Thank you Nancy for introducing. I would like to follow her.;)
    XO Tina

    • January 2, 2018 / 9:40 am

      Thank you Tina! She also makes lovely video’s!

      • January 2, 2018 / 8:19 pm

        Ha ha, Nancy, you are very kind to call my videos “lovely.” Let’s just say they are a work in progress!


  4. January 2, 2018 / 8:19 am

    Thank you for sharing her story! She is so stylish! 🙂 I love the way she knows exactly what works for her and embraces it – something I feel I’m still trying to figure out!

    Happy new year! Hope that 2018 is off to an amazing start for you, and you had a wonderful Christmas time.

    Away From The Blue Blog

    • January 2, 2018 / 9:41 am

      Thank you very much Mica! Happy New Year!

    • January 2, 2018 / 8:12 pm

      Mica (what a pretty name!), you *will* figure it out…or you WON’T, and you’ll have a lifetime of adventures trying new looks! That might be even better!


    • January 2, 2018 / 9:41 am

      Thank you Miri! Happy New Year!

  5. January 2, 2018 / 9:08 am

    I loved reading your story Bettye, I can definitely relate to much of it! You gave me a great idea on how to style my tule skirt, thanks!

    • January 2, 2018 / 9:42 am

      Thank you Marloes!

    • January 2, 2018 / 8:23 pm

      Thanks, Marloes! The tulle skirts are so fun! I feel like they look good with everything and you feel like a pretty pretty princess no matter what!

      I just signed up for your Dare to Dream challenge – I can’t wait to start!

      Happy New Year!


    • January 2, 2018 / 5:24 pm

      Thank you Gemma! Happy New Year!

  6. January 2, 2018 / 4:44 pm

    I love that she’s taking more risks as she turns 60- yes, lady!

    Le Stylo Rouge

    • January 2, 2018 / 5:25 pm

      Thank you Ashley!

    • January 2, 2018 / 8:37 pm

      I’ve got a *couple* years left before 60, but I feel it’s coming fast! One of my resolutions for the year is “get prepared,” and I feel I have a lot of preparing to do for my 60s!

      I just visited your blog – it’s gorgeous!


    • January 2, 2018 / 7:48 pm

      Thank you!

  7. January 2, 2018 / 7:41 pm

    I love your curved style! Keep on going strong with your looks!

    • January 2, 2018 / 7:49 pm

      And she is so very kind!

    • January 2, 2018 / 8:38 pm

      Thanks, Sonja! I’m trying! I want to get more creative and adventurous – but I can feel that’s coming!

      Thanks for the nice compliment – Happy New Year to you!


  8. January 2, 2018 / 8:08 pm

    Oh my gosh, this is lovely, Nancy, thank you so much! It’s funny how sometimes you can read something you yourself wrote, but it’s out of your normal context, so you sort of feel like you’re reading someone else’s words about you – does that make sense? Like an out of body experience, ha ha!

    And what nice comments your readers have made! That’s a real testament to *you,* dear Nancy – lovely people have lovely friends 🙂 I feel lucky to count you among my new blog friends!

    I can’t wait to show this off (ha ha, I’m so humble!) to my blog readers 🙂

    Thank you again for this lovely showcase!!!

    xoxo Bettye

    • January 2, 2018 / 9:54 pm

      Oh my dearest Bettye, the pleasure was all mine

  9. January 2, 2018 / 8:49 pm

    Another lovely ‘Styled By.. ‘ Nancy. Thanks for sharing it’s lovely to read about other ladies and so interesting to see their photos. Happy New Year to you my friend. x Jacqui

    • January 2, 2018 / 9:55 pm

      Thank you Jacqui!

  10. January 2, 2018 / 10:15 pm

    Yes, yes, yes!!! Bettye is right on and so inspiring. Fashion is for every BODY and everyone deserves to feel good about the skin their in. My heart is happy reading that Bettye isn’t following anyone’s rules – you go girl and one more thing – Bettye is rockin that tulle skirt like nobody’s business!!!

    • January 2, 2018 / 10:50 pm

      You’re so right! Thank you Kellyann!

    • January 4, 2018 / 6:55 am

      Thanks, KellyAnn! Yep, it took me a long time to understand that, as you said, fashion is for EVERY BODY!

      I’m feeling a kindred spirit with you because our blogs’ taglines are almost the same!


  11. January 3, 2018 / 4:45 pm

    Loved reading about Bettye! She has wonderful style – thanks so much for sharing!

    Happy New Year!
    So blessed that we connected through blogging!

    xoxo, Vanessa

    • January 3, 2018 / 8:10 pm

      Happy New year Vanessa! Thank you very much!

    • January 3, 2018 / 8:11 pm

      Bettye certainly has!

  12. January 3, 2018 / 11:17 pm

    This was fun to read! Bettye has a colorful sense of style and i love color1 Great picture of the blue printed cardigan outfit. I also went through the Flashdance phase and had the exposed shoulder with torn sweatshirt. hehe
    Thanks for linking!
    jess xx

    • January 4, 2018 / 6:57 am

      Ha ha, Jessica – I can just see us in the early 80s, dancing our heads off in torn neck sweatshirts and acid washed jeans with stilettos! Ahh, good times!


  13. January 4, 2018 / 6:39 am

    Bettye, I love your style, and I especially love your comment about becoming more adventurous with your style as you get older. That’s a goal of mine too! The outfit with the pink tulle skirt is amazing on you!

    • January 4, 2018 / 7:03 am

      Thanks, Lana! While I dress mostly conservatively for work, I do love having fun with my clothes outside of work – for holidays and parties and just playing good old dress-up!


  14. January 4, 2018 / 1:00 pm

    Heel leuk om de stijl van anderen steeds voorbij te zien komen!

    • January 4, 2018 / 7:24 pm

      Ja hè! Ik vind dit ook zo n leuke serie!

  15. January 4, 2018 / 4:08 pm

    wat een leuke en vooral gezellige foto’s van Bettye!

    • January 4, 2018 / 7:25 pm

      Dankjewel Saskia!

  16. January 4, 2018 / 7:54 pm

    Nice to meet you, Bettye!! I love, love, love that photo of you in the tulle skirt.


    • January 4, 2018 / 9:14 pm

      Thank you!

  17. January 5, 2018 / 10:03 pm

    Great post, Nancy! I was so excited to see fabulous Bettye featured here! I have been following Bettye on IG for quite some time now and I absolutely love her style, her passion, her attitude, and her fearlessness! Her smile and charm shine through every post she shares! Thanks for linking this post with me!


    • January 5, 2018 / 10:08 pm

      I totally agree with you! And I think she is very strong too!

  18. January 9, 2018 / 11:48 am

    I love Bettye’s style and I’m so glad I discovered her blog a few months ago. I really enjoy reading about other bloggers and seeing their old photos! Thanks for linking up!

    Emma xxx

    • January 9, 2018 / 2:38 pm

      Thanks Emma!

  19. January 10, 2018 / 8:00 pm

    What a fun blog to read. A true fashion journey. I can understand that when you were younger there wasn’t anything for plus size women. Luckily the world is changing 🙂 you look amazing and keep on wearing what you love.

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