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Nancy
November 25, 2016

Fancy Friday linkup!

Wow, last week I was almost reached my goal of 100 linkups. There were 93! Amazing! We’re almost there, give it an extra push all together! Love you all for being so loyal!

Whining about nothing!

I had a real bad day yesterday. You know, an off day without a good reason. When I woke up there was nothing wrong, went sporting, everything was just fine. I had nothing else stand all afternoon and felt like an afternoon working on the blog. So I install myself in front of the laptop with some food and drinks, changed in something comfortable and get going. First answering the mail and then check all the blogs on new posts. And there it started. One after the other blogger was involved in nice collaborations with other bloggers and those who weren’t had great collaborations with interesting brands! Headache started to come and I got more and more frustrated. By the time I had checked all the blogposts and see who actually do not comment on my blog, I felt very said and insignificant, especially insignificant.

Why I let it be so important.

Why I let that affect me by others? Why is it so important to me that others respond to me, that others want to work with me, that I also get offers from businesses? At one point I was so sick of myself that I turned off the laptop and started cleaning up, emptied the dishwasher and played with the cats for a while. I said to myself: what a childish bitch you are! Just be happy for those bloggers! And what was I to complain anyway. I started blogging because I love to write and fashion is my passion. Is it not Nancy! Or do you let yourself influence suddenly by numbers? Oh no girl! Zen!

I never really had much confidence. Although since I found the niche in blogging and I better learn to accept my situation it’s getting better. But very rarely, I was unconsciously tired or something, I get influenced so that the confidence is crumbling a bit. It’s all human. I for one am already so far that I recognize it and end it. I can kick my ass and say: move on! I do things in my own way and that is a way I feel comfortable with. And I am proud of that!

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crochet dress in Fancy Friday linkup

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This is where I link up!

Most viewed from last week is: Marushi from Marushi Lifestyle Yeah, finally a Dutch blogger! Check out what she’s been up to!

 Casual fall beige

And now it’s time for the start of the Fancy Friday linkup party. Every Friday you can show yourself and meet other bloggers. Even if you’re not a blogger you can join! You can also grab a button to support my linkup party if you like. I  would appreciate it very much!

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82 Comments

  1. It’s normal to want to feel that you are appreciated. And we all get down every once in a while, when we think we’re not getting any recognition for the work we do. And yes, sometimes it seems that other people are having all the fun…
    I haven’t really been looking for collaborations with other bloggers myself, maybe because I often feel so overwhelmed by work that I don’t have the energy. And for the same reason I’m not very communicative on other people’s blogs, either. Well, that and the fact that it’s actually pretty damn difficult to write comments on the iphone (and that’s what I use to read blogs during breaks at work or on the bus or train). And brands aren’t exactly beating down my door to work with me, either. At least not the brands I would want to work with…
    But I often wonder about the people who read my blog and don’t comment. Because the people who do comment, they’re mostly other bloggers, and of course it’s wonderful to feel part of a community. But what about the readers, those who just enjoy reading blogs and are not bloggers themselves? Who are they? What are they like? I don’t know, but it’s for them that I write the blog. Because even though they do not comment, they come back. So, they must get something out of it. Just like in my classroom, I may like the active students a lot, and I appreciate the efoort they put in. But it’s the quiet ones, the ones who hardly ever say anything, that I must reach so that they get something out of the lesson.
    So, think about all those people who read your blog, week after week, and keep coming back, without ever leaving a comment. But they like you; why else would they come back?

    1. Hahaha, I love you!!! I was really just whining, I know you are right. And I do get a lot of offers from companies(which I all(almost all) refuse because I want to write, not advertise)and I almost reached my linkup goal, so I have really nothing to complane! And I have always been a person , when I was still working,that reached to high. I shouldn’t anymore. Thank you for your lovely and loooong comment. I apreciate it!

  2. I love you girls! I don’t get many collaboration offers from companies either. The few I do get are requests for unpaid advertising! I usually respond to them that I need at least gifted product and usually they accommodate. If they don’t, then I usually won’t write about it. (Unless it is something I was already going to write about unsolicited).

    Nancy, I think you are a fabulous blogger with incredible style! I often get so far behind in my own work and all the other life stuff thrown my way that I hardly have the time to comment on posts anymore. But I do browse through posts frequently. And I totally get those feelings of inadequacy. I think it is normal, too. Feel the feels when they come up, give them a moment or two, then get on with your fabulous self doing the amazing things you do!

    Most of my comments come from other bloggers, too. And I do get super excited when I get a comment from a non-blogger. But they are definitely rare. I think maybe non-blogging readers are feeling just as insecure as we are and may be timid in posting comments.

    Anyway, I am up for a blogger collaboration with you! What should we do? Let’s start tossing around some ideas and go with it!

    Keep doing what you do, my fabulous friend!

    Hugs,
    Shelbee
    http://www.shelbeeontheedge.com

    1. Oooh, you are so sweet! What a nice words! Sometimes you get that, that feeling of insecure and doubting the things you do. But It was over very quickly! But I would love to do something with you, let s think about something original! Love you!

      1. Aw. Love you, too! The next few weeks are a bit crazy for me, so if we can’t make a collaboration happen before the end of the year, then we must definitely plan it for January…no later! Yes, yes, I am very excited about working with you!

        Shelbee

        1. Yes, I was also thinking:mm, I don t think this year is a good idea! Let s do something nice in Januari! I was already thinking about something but when I have some concrete ideas I will send it to you! Enjoy your busy time, those times are fabulous too.

  3. Dear Nancy, don’t be sad ♥️
    Collaboration with business is not in each way much fun. Readers do not like this maybe. You are authentic, fashionable, fabulous person and readers come to your blog to look your stunning style and read your storys. Not for looking promotion 😉
    Blogging just for fun is a good thing. Beware it.
    We keep in touch ♥️
    I wish you an nice weekend, send kisses and big hug Tina

  4. It’s only human to feel that way at times Nancy—really, we all do–how could we not?
    But at least you pulled yourself up by the bootstraps and gave yourself a good talking to, instead of wallowing in those feeling!!
    You are always such a positive influence on my own blog and I truly love you for that!
    Smiles and hugs to you!!
    jodie
    http://www.jtouchofstyle.com

  5. I think it’s very normal to start comparing yourself to others once in a while, and it’s also good to recognize that it’s not a good thing and to stop… 🙂 But I know you already know that! 🙂

    I very much enjoy reading your blog, and I try to comment as much as possible, but when I read on my phone (which I do during the day), it’s usually not possible… I think many are in the same situation…

    Also, I know that non bloggers usually don’t leave comments on my blog, but they sometimes email me. And that always makes my day. Some of my readers have been there since the beginning (almost 8 years ago), and it’s nice to get a sign once in a while that they are still there… I’m sure you have many readers who appreciate you but for one reason or another unfortunately don’t let you know consistently…

    Thanks for the link up & have a wonderful weekend!

    Andrea
    Andrea’s Wellness Notes

    1. And I really may not complain Andrea! I am very happy with my blogging world but you are right that sometimes we compare. I never thought of all the people that read and don t leave a comment. Isn t that stupid? Have a fabulous weekend Andrea!

  6. I love your blog because it is not junked up with ads and videos that lock up my new computer!!
    Once that happens the blog is on the “NO NO” list!!
    Your blog is lovely and showcases the things we are interested in as readers – keep up the good work!
    Mimi

  7. Hi Nancy
    I understand. As Jodie pointed out, we all have those feelings at some point. Just set small goals for yourself to acheive, i try and do this as comparing is not productive, but as was said, natural. You are a lovely person, and have a great sense of style. Glad to see you wearing those leopard booties! I love the peach and the bright blue skirt on you too, pretty colors!
    Jess xx
    http://www.elegantlydressedandstylish.com

  8. Nancy, I understand where you’re coming from. Although I’m technically a blogger (I try to write a few posts a week on my blog), my thing is thrifted fashion, so I don’t expect to get any collaboration offers from businesses. I do it mostly for amusement and have been surprised at how much time it consumes! So I understand that your posts, which are so much more interesting, in depth and detailed than mine, are really a product of a lot of time, effort and creativity on your part and it can be very disappointing to feel you’re not being as “successful” as you like in terms of comments and offers.

    I read every post you write and look forward to them. I find your outfits fun and you have definitely inspired me to try different things and look at clothing in a different way. I would imagine that there are lots of people who also feel the same way as I do, but don’t necessarily comment. How many times can you say “I love that outfit”! But if you love doing it, keep on! You never know where it may lead!

    Maggie

    1. Oh what a compliments! And I am really very happy with what I achieved in blogging and I do get a lot of offers, which I refuse. But sometimes you don t see it, but that moment didn t took long , but I thought: this is blogging too. I want to write about that insecurity too! Thank you dearest Maggie!

  9. Hoi Nancy, wat een supertoffe outfits! Je hebt smaak!
    Ik ben soms ook wel eens teleurgesteld. Je doet erg je best een mooi blog neer te zetten en op een gegeven moment wil je daar ook meer mee. En alsof je onzichtbaar bent… joehoe ik ben hier. En dat je het niet begrijpt dat alles kan, behalve aan jouw loketje!
    Vooral doorgaan zei ooit iemand op tv… Barry Stevens! ❤️❤️❤️
    Ik doe het ook op mijn manier… ik zeg zo is het niet linksom, dan maar rechtsom!

    1. Zo is dat hoor! En meestal heb ik dat gevoel ook niet, maar soms word je wat onzeker en ik vond dat dat deel ook beschreven mocht worden! Ik vind het wel heel leuk dat je ook reageert en leest! Nu moet ik je nog zover krijgen dat je meedoet aan de linkup!

        1. Fijn dat je zo eerlijk bent, als je wilt kan ik je natuurlijk stap voor stap helpen, maar ik begrijp het als je gewoon overslaat. Ik vind het al super leuk dat je langs komt! 🙂

  10. It seems like you just had a down day which we all do now and then, and now you are feeling better. Just be yourself and do your own thing, there will always be someone out there that will do things better so you can’t let that get to you. I admire your honesty and I think you are doing a great job!
    Nora
    http://www.jacketsociety.com

  11. I feel your pain, too. Life will be humming along and all is good but then there’s a bump and I start comparing myself and wondering why I’m not getting the notice. Even though my stats are improving each month (but very slowly), it can still be discouraging when I don’t get the same feedback that I give to others. I apologize to you if I’ve in anyway contributed to your doubts. You have a lovely style and I enjoy reading your posts.

    Rena
    http://www.finewhateverblog.com

  12. Nancy, I completely understand as I used to get down when I first started blogging in 2013, and was so desperate to be noticed here in Dallas. One day I just snapped out of it, and I said to myself other ppl likes my style and are crazy about my sense of fashion. Obviously Dallas isn’t ready for this Latina fashion blogger yet. Also I am 38 years old, and they want the young bloggers. What Dallas doesn’t realize is that what the world wants to see “real women” influencers and not little girls rocking the same Chanel bag, etc. Oh well it’s their lost as they are the one missing out, not us sweetie. You are real ad very unique so don’t give up mama, as you are doing a heck of a job, and I love your sense of style.

    Berty Morales
    Mad for Fashion for Less!
    https://madforfashionforless.wordpress.com/

  13. Ik heb echt precies hetzelfde meid! Mijn blog is gewoon mijn hobby maar stiekem sluipt het er toch een beetje in. Jaloezie, waarom hun wel en ik niet? Maar ja we moeten er maar het beste er van maken he! Zo gaaf dat ik Most viewed was van vorige week! 😀 Xxx

  14. I know how you feel all too much Nancy! those feelings are awful. I get that way sometimes when just looking at my IG and see my following isn’t that big compared to others. Or traffic is down. Sometimes taking a step back and turning everything off is good, I have to do that.
    I think your outfit round up is fabulous!

  15. Nancy! You are not alone. I think you are an amazing Fashion blogger. I know what you mean! I just keep trying to tell myself exactly what you are telling yourself…I am doing this because I want to write and I am learning and growing as a person, whether or not my blog is. I wish it was the case that my blog was so big and well read that I was making money, so I didn’t have to work outside the home, but that is not the case. But we are reaching people. I have a few very faithful followers who always comment on my posts and that makes me happy, because I know I am reaching someone. So don’t let those other things slow you down, or make you feel bad! I love your style and your spunk! Never give up! All your round up outfits are amazing! Thanks for sharing the good and the difficult! That means a lot to all of us! – Amy
    http://stylingrannymama.com/

  16. I’m pretty sure that everybody is feeling the same sometimes. I had such a period (not only one day) a few months ago. I almost gave up blogging! But I realized that this is not me, I don’t give up. I like blogging. I love read other bloggers – like for example you Nancy. Bloggers are such great community. I’m happy to be part of it. We inspire each other, we learn from each other and we are better with every post and we can inspire others – bloggers and non-bloggers. And as I’m always trying to find something positive even in negative things, I love this quote: Good day is a good day. Bad day is a good story. o)

    Anna xoxo
    http://www.glamadventure.com

  17. I love your outfits Nancy!! I completely agree that as bloggers we can never compare ourselves to other bloggers. The second I start doing that, blogging isn’t fun for me anymore. I just started getting some collaborations after 2 years and some of them I contact myself if I am really interested in a product. I look at that as a bonus for doing what I love to do and I don’t stress if no one contacts me for a while. The fun part is that I post about everything I love weather I get paid or not 🙂 Stay true to yourself and have fun XOXO.

    #LINKUPWITHLISA @ http://www.beauty101bylisa.com/2016/11/linkupwithlisa-77-fall-neutral-outfit.html

    1. Yes, you are so right. I was linking up with you this morning and I wanted to write something but I was to quick and the message was gone! One can tell by your blog that you are a honest and totally yourself person. And that is more important then anything else. Thank you for your kind words!

  18. You should definitely be proud of yourself Nancy. You have done such a great job with your blog and you truly deserve the success.

    Please don’t get upset about other bloggers and their collaborations. I know it’s easy to compare yourself to others but it just puts us down.

    http://www.mydailywear.co.uk

  19. Marushi die ken ik van haar blog en ik bezoek haar blog regelmatig. Ik vind veel van je stijl erg super leuk. Wat goed dat je uiteindelijk weet waarom je blogged. Ik kan mij voorstellen dat het heel frusterend kan zijn als je je vergelijkt met ander bloggers. Maar zolang je geniet met je blog, dat is al super! Samenwerking is leuk maar ook niet alles. 😉

    1. Oh I sure do! I am being hard on myself, I know, I was like that also when I was still working. But don’t feel sad, my mood was over very quickly! But thank you very much for your kind words. It means a lot for me.

  20. Ik snap wel dat je het ergens toch een beetje frustrerend vindt dat bloggers om je heen wel samenwerkingen krijgen met bedrijven en jij niet. Maar zoals je zelf al zegt is je blog ontstaan omdat je bloggen leuk vindt. Je hebt een ontzettend leuke stijl!

  21. You have such beautiful and interesting style, Nancy. I enjoyed seeing the variety of looks you presented here and how they capture your spirit. I know it can be easy to fall into the comparison trap and admit I have to avoid it at times. It always helps me to remember I blog for fun and when I start comparing it no longer feels very fun. As for comments, I admit to struggling with being able to keep up with comments on my own blog, and finding the time to visit other blogs I enjoy and leave comments is something I wish I could do more often. Blogging is almost like a full time job in and of itself, and since I do have a regular full time job and am also venturing out into pursuing a new dream sideline, it is difficult. I’ve noticed my engagement is not as much as it once was, and I know it is because I am struggling to keep up. 🙁

    1. Oh dear, don’t feel bad about commenting! It was just a short moment were I doubted myself and my blog. I understand you , and many others, don’t always find the time. You visit my linkup Always! I love you for that! But you made me quite curious……..are we going to find out soon about your new dream????

  22. Oh, Nancy what a nice and honest post…I think we all have these days which is why it’s so important to not let it get to you! You are a fantastic blogger with fantastic style! Success will come your way—just never give up! SO glad we connected! Keep up the good work!

    Happy Cyber Monday!!!
    xoxo, Vanessa
    http://www.WhatWouldVWear.com

  23. I think it’s normal to compare yourself to others, we all do it. I appreciate your honesty. I know that happens to me as well. But please don’t let it get to you or define your success. You have a fantastic blog and great style. And the fun thing about blogging is being able to make friends all over the world. I’m glad we are able to connect. Hope you have a great start to the week! I have no doubt you’ll hit 100 next week 🙂

    xo, jackie
    stylemydreams.com

  24. We all go through this. Even “successful” bloggers go through this.

    I have been blogging for 9 years now. I wasn’t always blogging about fashion, I started it for my other business initially and then morphed it into fashion when I changed my focus.

    I used to really get down about my stats. Then I got very sick. That turned my world upside down. Suddenly I wondered why I ever cared about what a bunch of other people think of me. It all seems utterly irrelevant and quite frankly, silly. I almost gave up blogging at that time. Then something amazing happened. People I didn’t know were reading my blog started commenting. They reached out to me in a sincere, heartfelt way. It became intensely personal. Mostly to do with me finding my way back from my illness, but also about finding something good in blogging again.

    I let go of the idea of becoming a popular blogger and chose instead to continue to blog for those people. The ones that actually made a difference to me when I was going through a very difficult time. That changed everything for me. Suddenly the connections I was making were much more important than any stats. I have met and become real friends with so many people I would never have met otherwise, all thanks to blogging. This has been my reward. Not a bunch of faceless people, but real people that want to connect. Choosing to focus on this isn’t good for the so called “success” of my blog, but it is very good for me as a person, to feel whole and happy.

    Whenever I start feeling like crap about my stats again or other people’s success and see myself asking, “Why not me?” I reflect back on that time or go and reread some of my posts and regain my focus. I need to be grateful for what I do have. That is where happiness lies.

    I also recognize that everyone is busy. We can’t be everywhere at once. I struggle to read other blogs, comment, participate in link ups, write my blog, take photos, maintain my two Etsy shops and keep up with everything else in my life. It is simply impossible to do it all. I have all but given up on most link-ups except for a couple I’ve been doing for years because I do not have the time. Everything is about time and making the best choices for each of us in our own busy lives. It does not reflect on you, your content or your blog. It just is.

    I choose to maintain relationships I’ve built and that requires time and effort and leaves less space to open up for new people to come in and connect. Ideally I’d love to connect with everyone I think is cool and has something to offer up but it just isn’t realistic.

    I’ve gone on far too long here : )

    I love your style Nancy whenever I visit your blog. Keep your face to the sunshine.

    bisous
    Suzanne
    http://www.suzannecarillo.com

    1. Wow, you took the time to write this! It’s very much apreciated! Luckely my dip didn’t last long. I also know better because of mu illness. You know what is so funny? When I read that so many bloggers said they liked my style. I had never thought about it. More I wondered if they liked what I have been written. Stupid isn’t it! But it is really so much fun to be around such a lovely group of bloggers. And I get so much inspiration from all of you. Take you for example. By You I go thrift hunting in Rye UK next year. I even picked the store already!

  25. I’m sorry to be so late linking up this week! Nancy, I totally understand where you’re coming from. Sometimes I wonder why I keep blogging – but then I remember how much I enjoy it. Plus I’ve gotten to meet wonderful people like you!

  26. First Nancy,
    I love this outfit, it is so cool and unusual, a fabulous mix by someone how really know how to style!
    I am impressed that you have built such a good blog in a short time, and a good and growing audience . It never is helpful to compare yourself to others, i think.
    Just do what you love, as bestsellers and you can and successfully will ( has!!!) follow!
    Congrats! You will be at 100 soon!
    I also share the feelings of Suzanne C, I started blogging as a response to illness, and never focus on, or even see, my stats. I find blogging, fun, and rewarding on a personal basis; I really like my readers, they feel like friends.
    xx, Elle
    http://www.theellediaries.com/blog/

  27. I hear you on this. Blogging is this strange rollercoaster of feeling beautiful and confident and like your style and voice are valued. And then the next day it’s questioning your worth and life choices and comparing yourself to others. I just try to stay true to me and keeping plugging away at my own pace. It’s hard to not measure myself against others, but I try to focus on the achievements and progress I’ve made and use that to propel me forward. It’s a struggle, though. I get it. Loving the look with the pink skirt, ruffled blouse, and buffalo check jacket, though! The jacket is such a fun surprise element.

    <3 Liz
    http://www.withwonderandwhimsy.com

  28. Loved reading this post by the way. I have been slacking in the blogging area and haven’t had quite the passion for it lately as I once did to be honest so my linking up to link ups has been either behind or hasn’t happened on some days. I have been honored to collaborate with some brands and bloggers but lately I have even said no to these and cut back on what I use to accept or do. I am glad you took some time to just reflect and realize the passion you have for it. Thanks for sharing!
    Rachel xo

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